Came across this topic in my reading lately which i found simple yet profound, something so close yet so near to us. Guess what's the tie about? Yes, it's emotional commitment. We all feel love, friendship, comtempt and hatred for some people in our lives. All these emotion rush tend to compromise our objectivity. It blinds us from seeing the truth.
More than often, we wouldn't want to think ill of those we love, or maybe we wouldn't want to see anything good in those we hate. To further complicate matters, most of us dislike change. Who does? Ooooh, maybe there is, but I am at the sideline. With my personality, I have to admit that, it takes me quite a long time to digest changes in my life. Really. I. am. ( I think my colleagues really agree with this, coz when i told them this, they were like "hmmmmmm...").
So, why does people dislike changes in life? It's all about security and convenience. We have the emotional attachment to ourselves, to keep things just as they are. When we're emotionally attached to a specific outcome, we tend to forget our objectives. That's why people always say, don't say a word when you're angry. It always end up with hurtful statement and it kills the mutual respect, trust and friendship that have been well established. It will take ages for you to repair the disaster.
That is also why, counsellors are being barred from having dual relationship with the client. A client, forever a client. He or she can't be your close friend or family. Well, it's just a matter of staying in or out of the objectivity. Just like how doctor can't treat their own family members. Same theories behind. :) Sometimes, we can pull outside out from the picture, don't stand inside the picture, we may get a better view.
Life's great when we decide to paint it with our hearts. I hope everyone's leading a good life! ^^
2 comments:
It's somehow a bit contradicting when u mentioned, don't say a word when u're angry.
Sometimes, I'd prefer someone to utter a word when he/she's angry bcoz the first sentence comes out from the mouth would usually be the word from the heart.
This might be very useful for a person who has long been suppressing his/her anger for a certain period of time. When he eventually spit out something from the mouth, that means -relieved-.
=) that's just my personal opinion. =D
Hehe! What a good sharing. :)
In my opinion, it's good to utter words but we also have to consider the party that we're speaking with.
However, i still think we have to speak it out (with the condition of having a calm/peaceful mode, that's when rationale of a person comes in, but not impulsiveness)
Have a nice day! ^^
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